Party
Etiquette

Orientation introduces basic party etiquette and club rules. Lifestyle parties are BYOB; a bartender is on duty, and basic mixers and sodas are available. Members must be 21+ to attend.

Lifestyle parties feature games such as Cards Against Humanity and “Naughty” Jenga, music for dancing, and plenty of comfy furniture for socializing. Semi-private areas (play rooms) are available for more intimate play.

Participation in activities at KOC events is always consensual, never required nor expected. Many members come to dungeon parties to socialize and watch, not necessarily to play.

While semi-private rooms provide more privacy than the social areas, doors are never to be locked. We ask this for your safety and ours.

If you're going to be nude or playing outside of a bedroom, we ask that you put a towel down first.

Members will be performing activities that may be uncomfortable to watch. Express any concerns to Security. “Your kink isn't my kink, but your kink is ok.”

Members may not identify with the pronouns you assume they use. Always ask for others' pronouns when first meeting them, and always offer your own.

Always ask before hugging someone, even if you know them. Ask before touching or picking up someone's toy or property (which may include other people).

Respect everyone's identities and lifestyles without question or comment.

Never mention another member's presence or activities outside of the club. If encountered outside the event, ignore them unless an understanding already exists between both parties.

Some members get distracted when someone stands too closely to them — and others have a wicked backswing. Always watch from a distance.

Hold all conversations in the social area. Talking in play rooms should be limited to museum-quiet comments only.

Phones are not allowed to be used in the venue or during Orientations.

Photos are not allowed in the venue unless approved and observed by the Manager On Duty.

Properly clean equipment using Envirocide when finished. This ensures the safety and enjoyment of the next user.

Security staff are there for the safety of everyone. Follow their instructions promptly and respectfully.

If something or someone doesn't feel right, walk away. You never have to play with someone you don't want to. Talk to Security or the Host if you feel unsafe.

No coercion. No guilt-tripping. No passive-aggressive comments designed to wear someone down. We treat these as precursors to more serious offenses — because they are.

No non-consensual behavior. Ask, don't beg. Don't ask repeatedly. Anything that isn't an enthusiastic yes is a no — act accordingly.

No pressure tactics. "Just try it." "Come on." "You said yes last time." None of that flies here.

No DMs without explicit permission. Always ask first — in the group, not in their inbox.

Anti-thirst policy. Excessive thirst, constant DM fishing, or horny posting will result in removal. We're grown. Act like it.

No judgment. No kink-shaming. No yucking anyone's yum. This is a shame-free space. If a kink, dynamic, or preference isn't for you, scroll past. Ridicule and moral policing are not tolerated.

Privacy and inclusivity are mandatory. What's shared in this group stays in this group. Discrimination or disrespect toward any identity or kink is not tolerated.